Today, my husband and I have been a couple for 12 years. We have been married for 11 years.
It was not written in the stars that our relationship would survive, it has been against all odds, and it was a tough ride to begin with.
We both have mental issues to deal with. We needed to learn how to trust again after spending too much time with the wrong people.
12 years of love is the longest relationship I have been involved in. But I don´t regret as much as a second of it. And I would gladly turn back time and do it all over again.
I found my soul mate 12 years ago. I found the love of my life. And I finally found somebody to trust.
My husband is my best friend, my everything. my one and only. He is always there for me. And he is the one who accepts both the better me and the shadow of me when I feel down.
He has seen me way up high, the whole way down, and he stays no matter what. I have seen him, too, so we know each other on a very deep level.
12 years of love is a long time, but I embrace every second of it. For in my husband I find what I search for concerning love, friendship, and decency.
Together, we have climbed towering mental mountains, fought through hell and back, and experienced each other´s absolutely worst sides.
But the love between us has always created a way out of even the most impossible of situations.
My husband has been sober for seven years now. He has managed to do the work all by himself, where I needed treatment. So I´m so proud of him.
In our everyday, he creates a safe haven for us both, and I feel so secure in his arms.
We can speak about everything, we finish each other´s sentences, and we believe in an alternative lifestyle where we ourselves make the decisions about whom we name family and friends.
We began as the kids we were raised to become. Today, we are both grown-ups and know the difference.
Between what is good for us and what needs to be released and let go of.
Four years ago, we made the decision to change our lifestyle permanently. And many a name has been erased from the address book since.
Because we only want people we can trust in our lives. The rest are of no concern to us anymore, and that is a definitive decision.
12 years of love is a strong sign that we are meant for each other. I know life gives no such guarantees, and eighty percent of life lies in the everyday.
Marriage and relationship is hard work on a daily basis. And the key for us is to be open and honest with each other. We must be able to talk about both the happy and the tough matters in life.
We stand together through thick and thin. And another important thing to remember in a relationship is to give space and real life offline time to the other part.
To give without the expectation of receiving, then everything positive will shine and be attainable.
Concerning the negative and darker aspects of life, we use the same approach. And so far, we are safe here, too.
Today, I continue to feel freedom from anxiety. I have a little hope that it is a sign of better times with my daily boxing game with my friend anxiety.
And such a big day for us helps more than I at the moment have words for.
So here is to love, to friendship, and to the man of my dreams:
Dear husbond of mine, I love you from the bottom of my heart, forever and always you.
12 years of love has changed me into the person I prefer to be. I have learned many of my life´s lessons here.
It has taught me humility, respect, and perseverance. It has become the center around which my life evolves. And it is the best choice I ever made.
To say I do to the reality of living together for the rest of my life.
I did it from day one.
It was and it is difficult at times. Especially when life feels uncertain and unstable. If the basis is not fundamentally rooted in both of us, then things get unnecessarily complicated.
Therefore, we have created a basis to work from, should anything happen.
Therefore, we changed our lifestyle in time to remember to enjoy it as well.
And therefore, we today celebrate 12 years of love.
May your weekend be blessed and filled with love, joy, and laughter, dear readers and followers. And may the world experience some love, too. It is essential in order for it to heal.
So it is.
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